Magnus -- who has been drawing this particular advice from Hearthstone and Blitzen's relationship more than his own, since Hearth has these really intense grief spells -- tries to think of useful advice. "Well, for one, you can't be everything for him," he says, after a moment. "Like, I know you guys are, like, polyamorous or whatever." He might not get it, but he does respect it! "So I wanna be clear that that's not what I mean. If you're therapist for your partner... I'm pretty sure that's a fast-track to resentment. On both ends. You have to make time for yourself, and take care of yourself, and both set and respect boundaries. Instead of, like, tilting at windmills and trying to defeat his bad feelings when he has them, you should get comfortable with making space for them, a little? He's gonna have them no matter what you do. When he's in a good place, ask him for specific things you both are interested in you doing to help, and do those. Talk about the boundaries you're both establishing. I don't know, he might like hearing that you're thinking concretely about this and have a plan to help you both with the bad spells. Maybe he has other friends he can talk to about the stuff that you're not covering, if you're both willing to set up that kind of structure."